I hear too many times Women complain about Men…..
‘All Men are Dawgs’… ‘All Men are Liars’… ‘All Men are Cheaters’… ‘All Men are the Same’…
In these instances this is coming from a place of hurt. There is no denying that in the past you may have been hurt by a guy, yes he may have lied, cheated, been abusive, etc and No you didn’t deserve it. But to generalise all Men as Liars, Cheaters & Dawgs etc is not healthy.
I recommend dealing with the hurt that was caused, you need to acknowledge that who ever caused the hurt is not worth your time, love or thoughts. Name and shame the person, not publicly but privately sometimes we make excuses for the dumb stuff they did and never really deal with the raw fact that he was dishonest. We need to;
‘Stop Rewarding Bad Behaviour with Dedication’ – @MrVitoSpeaks
The sooner you start to deal with your past mistakes and clear out tainted views of ‘All Men’, the sooner you’ll be able to SEE yourself being approached by a Genuine, Honest and Faithful Man. You will not recognise Love that you have not prepared for.
Chivalry – Derived from the Medieval Times and linked to the customs of medieval knighthood; a Knight was expected to be courageous, generous and courteous.
However, fast forward 1500 years and Chivalry is seen as something that’s ‘Dead’ or that Men have ‘old fashioned’ views like;
1 – Holding the Door open
2 – Walking on the side of the pavement closest to the road
3 – Offering to help you carry your heavy load
4 – Offering his jacket if its cold or raining
5 – Paying for the outing
Yet I hear you saying that these Men are Creepy, Strange, Controlling or only Want Something i.e my money or sex.
I’m not in-denial that there are some guys out their who make love a game, they know what to say & do it to get the girl to do something in return. I’m talking about the genuine guys who show and act out of love, kindness, who have self control and are gentle.
‘Most men will proclaim every one his own goodness: but a faithful man who can find?’
Your desire should be to have a Faithful Man who isn’t shy to;
1 – Honor his word and keep his promises
2 – Actually pay attention to you when you speak
3 – Is honest and doesn’t play Games with the heart of a Genuine woman
4 – Sticks up for you
5 – Is proud to present you to his friends and family.
Women primarily need Security in their relationships, so ideally your Boyfriend, Fiancé, Husband should be making you feel this.
Your past experiences may make it seem like meeting a Man that wants to Protect you, is Sensitive to your needs, is Faithful and has Integrity; is a bad thing.
That being said most women have been given the reputation of being ‘Nagging’, but as a good woman you are unlikely to “Nag” if he meets the above requirements.
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Love & Blessings